My Last Day as a 39-Year Old

My wonderful husband completely and utterly surprised me last week with:

1) An unexpected visit from my parents, who live in England. When they walked through the door Thursday evening I freaked out!

2) A surprise party with friends and family Friday night. I thought we were going out for dinner with my parents, but SURPRISE!

He planned and orchestrated everything so well. He was up to his eyeballs in a proposal at work so I figured he hadn’t had time to plan anything. I have to admit that I also didn’t want to get my hopes up and be disappointed. Apparently he’d been planning this since July! No-one spilled the beans. A few friends avoided me the week before, because they were afraid they’d say something. I must admit to feeling slightly depressed, with no-one responding to me or answering my request to celebrate. I thought they didn’t care. How wrong I was.

When I’m asked if I feel 40, I don’t really know how to answer. Aside from the obvious fact that I haven’t quite reached 40 (one more day!), what does 40 feel like?

When I was in my twenties, working out was more of a mental battle than a physical one. My body was willing, but my mind was weak and would allow me to make excuses for not running or shorten my run if I actually made it out the door. Now, my mind is stronger, more disciplined but, unfortunately, my body is not. The battle these days involves more rest and recovery, less frequent hard efforts, and listening very carefully to what my body is trying to say.

In triathlon, I’ve been 40 since the beginning of the year, since triathletes must race the age they’ll be on December 31st of that year. So in May, at my first tri of 2012, I raced with “40″ stamped on my calf and placed 2nd in the 40-44 division. The previous October I’d lamented not being in that age group at Ironman 70.3 Austin as it meant that my swim wave started 30 minutes later. But in August 2012 I wished I were back in the 35-39 age group because my swim wave at the National Championships in Vermont was an hour later than the 35-39s!

What’s most weird is running as a 39 year old while competing in triathlon as a 40 year old. It means I’m in two completely different age groups. I’m looking forward to being one age: 40.

My first race as a (genuine) 40 year old was to be Marine Corps Marathon, which was to be a training run for JFK 50, a race I promised I’d run as a 40 year old. Neither will happen this year. My calf tear is lingering as a result of my failing to allow it to heal properly. So now I must sit out, wait patiently, and train for Boston Marathon, my first marathon as a 40 year old.

Cheers!

 

By the way, there’s just ONE DAY left to enter my Kona Kase Giveaway! Your chance to win some awesome endurance nutrition samples!

Do you have a big birthday coming up? Just recently had one?

Thoughts on getting older? Wiser? Smarter?!

 

A 28-Year Love Affair

I started running (seriously) at age 11, when I was sent off on the school cross-country course along with my classmates. Back then, you were supposed to hate running. I tried to conform, but the truth was, I loved it. I loved the freedom I felt from gliding under the tree canopy, staggering up the hills and flying down, feeling that burn and still pushing on.

By the way, all the pictures are recent because cameras weren’t invented back then… ;)

Racing at Hemlock in 2011

Running Twilight Four Miler in 2011

I took running with me to the track where I wanted to run the 800 but was told I was more suited to the mile. I took running to France for several cross-country meets, and we even traveled to the English Schools’ Cross Country Championship in 1991 – a highlight of our relationship at that point.

Of course, we’ve fallen out on more than one occasion, running and I. When I went to Sheffield University I succumbed to other distractions and became an unreliable team member, showing up for some meets and bailing from those that scared me such as the BUSF (British University Sports Federation) Cross-Country Championships, which required me to run farther than I wanted (I hid out in a pub instead of going). Running and I broke up when I transferred to the University of Maryland. I made a clean break and took sailing as my rebound lover.

But I couldn’t get my mind completely off running and, after two years, we started up again, cautiously at first. My first 5K after we reunited was a disaster. It was the Terrapin Trot at UMD, a race that started with a very steep downhill from the student union towards Route 1. (They’ve since changed the start.) I shredded my quads on the descent and almost had to walk in the latter stages of the race.

Recovering from that setback, and making a commitment to better training, running and I became close again. I signed up for Cherry Blossom Ten Miler and shared running with a group that kicked my butt in Rock Creek Park every Saturday.

Running at Burke Lake in 2010

Running at Haines Point in 2012

When I got engaged, my (now) husband’s baseball team mates joked that I wouldn’t let him play baseball once we were married. I retorted that I planned to keep my paramour and he was therefore more than welcome to keep his.

After my sons were born I felt an even greater need for running.

Introducing my boys to running

Hoping my sons love running, too!

We started seeing more and more of each other, until I finally felt ready to run a marathon. We’d been together 22 years at that point. We’ve run 5 more marathons, including an ultra, since then.

Disney World Marathon 2008

Boston Marathon 2009

Shamrock Marathon 2011

Three years ago, feeling that I needed more excitement in my life, I decided to try a threesome – triathlon. Triathlon made me appreciate running even more. Of the three disciplines, running is my strength and has helped me place numerous times and, on three occasions, win.

1st Female at South Riding Tri in 2011

Finishing at Charlottesville Triathlon in 2011

Of course, there are times when I get frustrated with running and just don’t feel like doing it. It’s too hot, it’s too cold, I’m tired, I have a headache… But as they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and there’s nothing like a forced break such as injury or travel to make me realize the importance of running in my life.

I hope to grow old with running by my side.

Happy Valentines’ Day. ;)

 

On Losing the Guilt and Not Getting Lost

I have my fingers in too many pies and, as a result, spend far too much time feeling guilty. When I’m running with my running club, I feel bad that I’m missing whatever workout my tri group is doing. When I’m with the tri group, I feel like I’m cheating on my running club. I bounce back and forth between the two like some sort of adulterous athlete, trying to find the perfect balance and wishing I could be in two (actually three, because I’m not home, either) places at once.

This weekend I finally found that balance. On Saturday morning I ran with the running club. I certainly wasn’t going to miss post-run waffles at the home of two of our members! I planned to run 10 miles but the others were running 8 so I split the difference and tacked on one extra mile. I was worried all the waffles would be gone if I stayed out any longer. Hey, nutrition is important. Look at all that fruit and fiber.

waffles

That is not a zit on my head it's a light reflection...

Saturday afternoon was my tri club’s bike time trial and I was all set with my shiny new B2. Then it started raining.

Me on B2

HTFU!

Then it stopped and we set off to ride as many 7-mile loops as possible in 1 hour. I was doing well and having a grand old time passing people (helps when you have issues clipping in and start at the back) and felt strong on the uphills and fast on the downs. Then my freaking bike broke.

I was having issues with something rubbing on the small ring already, and then something started rattling like crazy and I looked down to see a screw that holds the handlebars on had come loose. I stopped, checked it out, and rode back to the turnaround to get it looked at. Long story short, it couldn’t be tightened on the spot and I was done. I drowned my sorrows in a humungous hamburger cooked to rare perfection, and felt much better. I also ordered myself a “onesie” tri suit that I am probably going to be far too embarrassed ever to wear. These are the things I do when I’m hacked off.

Sunday I planned to do an easy run on Manassas Battlefield with my husband, but he was having cramping issues from a swim that morning and bike the day before. Or maybe he was looking for a way out since I’m notorious for getting people lost on the trails…

I thought I was going to have to go it alone but my coach and another tri group friend decided to join me. Guess they hadn’t heard about my penchant for recreating scenes from Blair Witch by leading people in circles. Anyway, I was sure to bring a map with me this time and I actually managed not to get lost, although I made a couple of “it’s probably this way…” decision points. The guys really enjoyed the run so I think I succeeded in showing them there are far, far better alternatives to supposed trails like the W&OD, aka trail of death.

For now, I am like frozen yogurt - guilt-free.

Oh, and a couple more things: there’s still time to enter the Stuffitts Giveaway! It ends April 14th. And who searches for “running shorts you can poop in”???? Really!

The First Tale…or how racingtales got started

Back in 1984, when I was 11 years old, the school PE teacher recruited me to participate in a marathon relay against other schools across the region. Teams of six or so took turns running 800m legs around a track until we’d completed 26.2 miles. It would be another 22 years before I’d attempt the marathon distance on my own, but from that moment I was hooked.

While I enjoyed the race itself, I relished the training, which mostly consisted of running short sprints in the gym and doing crunches and push ups and such. Once a week, in PE, we also ran cross-country, which soon became my favorite event. We’d head off into the woods and for 19 glorious minutes (the time it took for me to run the 2.4 mile course) I was all alone, breathing in the fresh air and listening to my footsteps.

Track was another matter. I didn’t particularly like track running. Granted, the “track” at public schools in England was grass; white chalk was simply used to mark the lanes on the playing field. At some schools, the track was on a hill; our track, while flat, had molehills in the finishing straight. So I learned  from an early age how to pick up my feet to avoid obstacles, which was helpful for cross country! But the monotony inevitable in running circles and the exposure I felt from people being able to see me falter at any time made track running my least favorite event. I worked hard at it, however, because there was one girl who could beat me; that is, until she took up smoking and inevitably quit running.

At 16, I joined the local running club, Southampton City A.C. (A.C. stands for Athletic Club; in England track and field are known as “athletics.”) The track where we trained was a real rubber track, and we always ran on it in spiked shoes. Getting “spiked” by another runner was a regular occurrence. We also wore spikes for cross-country, trading out the 5mm track spikes for more dangerous 9mm ones; those left a mark.

I never excelled on the track, for reasons stated above, but I did well in cross-country and spent my winter weekends running for the club in league races – we ran in both Wessex (as in Thomas Hardy’s Wessex) and Hampshire leagues. Occasionally we’d take a ferry over to France to race against French teams. French cross-country was a different experience; while in England cross-country inevitably consisted of hills, mud, and more hills, in France it was the norm to run around a pancake flat field (which also contained pancakes left by the cows that had been temporarily removed) with man-made obstacles such as logs. I have very fond memories of my trips to France!

It was on one of these trips that I met Malcolm Campbell, who at the time was running for Great Britain as a junior and now runs ultras for the USA. Malcolm helped me train and, at 18, I secured a spot on the team for the prestigious English Schools Cross Country Championships. This was the biggest event I had ever participated in – there were 400 girls in my race (senior girls, age 15-18) alone. It was exciting because there were so many famous (in running circles) names at the event, including Paula Radcliffe, who is now the women’s marathon world-record holder. She was 2nd; I was 249th. :)

Fast-forward 20 years and I’m still racing! I recently added triathlon to my repertoire, which includes everything from 5K to the marathon, both on the road and the trail. This year I plan to complete my first ultra, the Capon Valley 50K. I’ll be documenting my training experience as well as the races I complete this year. I’ll also talk about my running club, South Riding Running Club, of which I’m president, and my triathlon group, Tri Performance Racing. I couldn’t do all of this without the support of my training partners.